How to Make Joint Child Custody Work
Are you in the middle of a child custody dispute? Don’t let the situation get the best of you. Find out how you can make joint custody work for everyone involved.
Speaking poorly about your ex is never a good thing to do, especially in front of your kids. Don’t forget that your ex is also their parent and someone they love. Badmouthing them will only make you look bad, not them. Let your kids figure out how they feel about your ex on their own terms and try to keep your feelings to yourself.
Focus On the Kids
It can be easy to get wrapped up in all the negative aspects of the divorce and the custody battle. But it’s important to remember that child custody is about the kids, not you. Don’t let your pain, anger and anguish direct your decisions. Instead, put the kids first and prioritize their needs instead of yours.
Do What’s Best for Them
One of the hardest parts of child custody battles is figuring out the scheduling, especially if you both work similar hours. When trying to make a schedule, remember once again to think of the kids’ needs and schedule before your own. While it might make sense for you to run a 2-2-3 plan, the constant back and forth might be more stressful for your kids. Talk to them about what they think would work best for their needs and then go from there. If you’re dealing with toddlers and infants, talk to a childcare professional to see what they would recommend as the most beneficial option.
Give Each Other Space
Child custody battles can be difficult for both parents. If you start nagging each other over frivolous things, it’s only going to make the situation more difficult. Although you likely don’t want to see each other regularly, you can’t avoid it during this process. So try to keep things as civil as possible and avoid overreacting about honest mistakes or the odd mix up with schedules that can happen to the best of parents.
When trying to make child custody work, the most important thing to remember is that all of the decisions should be in your child’s best interest. By placing their needs first, you’ll be able to make better decisions for your children that will create a healthier, peaceful environment for everyone.
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